We’ve all been there. Well, most of us have anyways–circling the question of whether or not that “someone” is really into you or just playing you for a fool. For the various reasons she keeps you around, here are the sure, tall tell signs that she’s really, just not that into you.

1- Doesn’t hold your gaze or look into your eyes. If a woman is really into you, she’s definitely going to want to stare in those baby blue/brown/greens for longer than a few seconds at a time.

2- “Hey I have to call you back”–and then doesn’t. This one is kind of obvious, yet most humans want the best from people and expect the best. “There’s no way that he/she can’t be into ME?” Sorry to break it to you, we’re no psychologists over here, but–she’s not that into you.

3- Talks about other men when she’s with you. If she’s yapping about Gary and Tom, her straight guy friends, or references that she still may or may not be in love with her ex boyfriend–she’s not that into you.

4- Not into make-out sessions…with you. Kissing= magic. Without it, you just don’t have the spark.

5- You see new photos of her with other guys on Facebook. Should I say more?

 

6- She asks for grooming/ fashion advice more than she should. If she does, she sees you more like a guy friend and definitely not a lover. With lovers, mystery is always better, at least in the beginning.

7- She openly flirts with the waiter or bartender. Either she’s not that into you, or she wants to make you jealous. Either way, you don’t need a lady like that.

8- Never brings up her parents, let alone bring you up to them. If she’s never mentioned you EVER to her parents, chances are, you don’t stand a chance.

 

9-  If she seems constantly distracted when you’re telling her a story. (She’s checking her phone, the door, her plate, her fingernails…way more than she’s checking you out.

10- She says “I like you, really. Just, as a friend…”.

A friend is a friend is a friend. And that is all it will ever be, so move on. If she actually has to say it, then there’s really no chance of you getting the girl. It’s one thing for friendship to turn into romance, but when it’s openly verbalized…well, there you go.

1. Print your resume on good quality printing paper. Not card stock paper, nothing floral or fancy, just good quality printing paper than doesn’t “slop” over in your hand when reading. If the paper flops, you’re probably a flop too.

2. Don’t walk in with a drink in your hand. It looks unprofessional. Of course, this goes for food as well. As much as we all LOVE our Starbucks, leave it in the trash can at the door. And make sure you follow up with a mint.

3. Own your craft–you are the expert at what you do, always remember that. Fake it until you make it.

 

4. Firm Handshake–this goes without saying, but we have to say it anyways. Actually, anytime you meet someone remember this, for bejesus sake…

5. Wear one fashion signature piece. If you’re wearing a traditional black/ blue suit, make sure you show off your personality just a bit. Cufflinks are obviously a great way to do this, because they’re understated, but when noticed, can say a world about you. If you’re a musician, go for guitar cufflinks, etc.

EXTRA BONUS: If you can want to show him/her any files, .pdfs, powerpoints, excel sheets, etc. NOTHING looks cooler than reaching for your wrist, unlatching your cufflink/usb drive, and popping it into your laptop at a meeting. Plus it’s a good conversation starter. Take these Antique USB Drive Cufflinks as an example:

6. Have a copy of your personal and professional references on hand with phone numbers, ready to go. That way, if they want to follow up immediately after you leave, they can.

 

7. Be conscious of your social media presence BEFORE you walk into the office/ interview. Your potential new boss has already, most likely done his/her research and Google the hell out of you. Have ready-to go answers for any embarrassing tidbits that may be circulating around the web. This can go either way–it can work for you or against you, it’s all how you play it.

 

 

If you’re lucky enough to live in New York City, you have a wide range of activities to do at literally any time of the day and night. During the holiday season, there’s an influx seasonal charm and events that bring in tourists from all over the world. One of our favorite things to do here at Cufflinksman is to enjoy an evening of burlesque.

Now if you’ve never been to a real Burlesque show, you may have the wrong idea. Burlesque is one of the most beautiful forms of dancing and late night entertainment for adults. While we wouldn’t recommend you take the kiddies to an after hours show, or any such show before the age of 16, for those cosmopolitan 20-80 something’s, it can be the perfect night out.

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Fleece-Lined Field Coats by LL Bean are just the thing for this season. Show up to Thanksgiving dinner, with the customary bottle of wine, green bean casserole, sporting this warm fall-inspired outerwear. The cool thing about their products is that you can return/exchange them at anytime, for any reason.

And of course, any well dressed gentlemen should come to the dinner table with a crisp white cotton button down. With or without a tie, pair your basic button down with LL Bean’s Lambswool Vest, as shown above. And don’t forget a simple, warming pair of Silk Cufflinks, colored and ready to go for all your fall ready to wear ensembles.

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If you’re not too proficient in the kitchen arena and are strapped for time on the big turkey day to prepare something to bring for dinner, consider gifting one of these chef-inspired Tie Clips like the one below. Under $40, this Stainless Steel Pebbled Spoon Tie Clip is the perfect culinary accessory for the fashion conscious gentleman.

Remember to add a splash of color and texture with each outfit. The dark autumnal hues of the season are always a no-brainer, but keep texture in the back of your mind too. These Butterfly Wings Cufflinks add that graceful touch of texture whilst adding a burst of popping color to your arm sleeves.

 

 

 

 

Interesting Places to Take Your Date

We’ve all been there–combing through old memories of restaurants, venues, and music spots, searching for just those that are appropriate places to take your new “friend.” It must be suave, thoughtful, classic–not an evening at Shake Shack and the local AMC.

How can you get creative amidst a city with every possibility fathomable? Expectations are high and economies are tight. Sometimes a little planning and brainstorming will do just the trick to woo the one you’re pining after:

 

Fight or flight. Indulging in a good bourbon or whiskey can be a hit or miss, depending on how aggressive you want to get (pun intended). Try taking your special friend to a Whiskey Bar for a Flight Sample. For under $100, you can indulge in a whiskey sampler that will ensure a few hours of intimate conversation and sultry evening glances.

 

The cool thing about it too, is even if the date doesn’t work out, you’ll still have high-end, select bourbons and whiskeys to add to your palate. “Have you ever tried…?” is a great conversation starters in the “real world,” including bartenders, new dates, and bourbon connoisseurs everywhere.

TIP: Try Beekman Bar and Books:

BAR AND BOOKS
889 1st Avenue
@ 50th Street, New York 10022
Tel.: 212 758 6600

 

Not your everyday collection. Instead of taking your date to that over-saturated art gallery with hordes or tourists, try to switch it up a bit this fall season. Museums with rotating collections are best, because you always know that you are one of the limited few that will get to glimpse _____.

TIP: Try Museum of the City of New York. It features 19-20th century memorabilia. “Today the Museum’s collection contains approximately 750,000 objects, including prints, photographs, decorative arts, costumes, paintings, sculpture, toys, and theatrical memorabilia.”

 

 

Fall picnic at the park. Bring along the following essentials: two types of gourmet cheese–one hard/ one soft, maybe one with truffles, one without, etc, a bottle of French red wine, a loaf of ciabatta bread, one blanket, checkered red and white napkins, a pre-programmed iPod with classical music, a Robert Frost poetry book, and a canister of Apple Cider (optional flask of bourbon to accompany).

Don’t forget the Picnic Blanket…

 

Pick your ensemble carefully–focusing on autumnal tones like deep red and navy, orange and green. Think wool sweaters, jewel-toned beanies or old fashioned driving hats, and don’t forget the suspenders.

 

TIP: Try a fragrant garden in the park somewhere, under an Oak or Willow tree. Finding random eucalyptus and pine trees always a plus. Bring binoculars for bird watching and a .PDF of any bird watchers book.