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Certain Things Women Can’t Resist
We’ve all heard the saying “nice guys finish last” and that can be true…if you’re a push-over. Women don’t want men who are passively sweet and timid about their affections. So what do women really want? They want a bold “nice guy” who isn’t afraid of rejection, who will go to “bad boy” lengths to get the girl.
What does that even mean? Check it:
Go to Great Lengths to get her. And we don’t mean inches.
So she lives in another state? Go find her. There’s something ultra-romantic and straight forward about going out to seek the one you love, traveling miles, and confessing your adoration. Any man that travels far with the sole purpose of “loving” her and only her, has about a 98% chance of having the feeling reciprocated. We fall for that kind of stuff. Just make sure when you get there, you have that rushed sense of “I’ve missed you so much that I just couldn’t…” blah blah you get the picture. But don’t abuse this romantic charm, make sure you know the lady and have a chance with her.
Send her gifts. Seriously.
It’s not that she’s a gold digger, but women want to be thought of and sometimes in tangible ways —and they want to be able to think of you in tangible ways too. By sending her little gifts, you’re not only showing her you love her, but it also ensures she will be remembering YOU every time she looks at it. hehe…slick one. This is why “gift giving” during courtship (and hopefully thereafter) is one of the most romantic, charming tricks in the book. You get extra extra bonus points if these gifts aren’t generic and have something to do with her inner, personal life (……) LIKE something she’s casually brought up in conversation, something that complements her life and aesthetics.
TELL her you’re taking her out to lunch.
Remember, passivity is the devil. Be bold about it and respectful. Treat her like a lady from the Victorian era and then watch as she unfolds into a minx later on. But before all that, don’t casually ask a woman your pinning for out to lunch….TELL her you’re taking her: “I’m taking you to lunch today. I was thinking that Greek restaurant. How’s 1:30 later on today? I’ll pick you up outside your office.” BOOM. Brilliance. And if you’re rejected, well it depends on HOW you’re rejected, be persistent until you know it’s a no-go.
Some men think that they will boost a woman’s head up if they compliment her. Not the case: a happy, confident woman is a happy, confident man. As long as the compliments aren’t excessive, they are necessary. Notice the little things. She’ll reward you later.
Conduct a scavenger hunt.
Start with an anonymous note. Maybe a series of poems or riddles. Nothing to sappy or romantic, just enough to get her looking at places. Think of the movie “Amelie.” Remember what SHE put that man through? Of course they end up together in the end! Leave little clues around your city/town that lead to more clues. The end result doesn’t matter, it’s the anticipation that counts. Leave her a note at the gas station/deli, which leads to an old movie theater, have a ticket waiting for her, etc etc. Get creative. The more work you put in, the more impressed she’ll be.
Guide to Gift Giving
According to Hallmark (and your wife), it’s never too early to start looking for Valentine’s Day presents. And we all know men aren’t the greatest shoppers anyways–it’s against the evolutionary biological standard for men. But CLM is here, once again, to help you pry through the masses of gifts and pick the right one for your lady friend.
First, pick which “type” your lady embodies. No, we don’t like putting anyone in categories, but for this shopping effort on Valentine’s we will make an exception.
Is she Glitzy? Designer? Earthy? or Romantic?
Pick ONE or TWO:
For the Glitzy Lady:
Get her something that sparkles, it’s a no brainer. Every woman has her favorite jewelry staple, be it necklaces, rings,bracelets, earrings, or a mix of everything. Have a custom ring or necklace made for her, it doesn’t have to be an engagement ring, but if your serious, then maybe some kind of “promise” ring. Yes we’re taking it back old school. Good Old Mr. Hallmark forces us to! Forgive us please!
But really, don’t just go to the local department store and grab anything that sparkles. Put some kind of thought into it…meaning go to a local jeweler and actually design something. It could be in Sterling Silver or Platinum, add a few semi-precious stones and you have a one of a kind ring, necklace, or bracelet to give her. The trick is, you don’t want to fall into that “Kay Jewelers or Jared’s” trap that says she should have the same necklace and ring as every other woman in America. Put your mind and money together to create something beautiful.
Is she a Stunning Love Knot kind of gal?
For the Designer Lady:
A handbag. A watch. Anything by her favorite designer that she can use on the regular and be reminded of your love (and money). They go hand in hand, do they not? Hey V-Day can be kind of cut throat for the unemployed and taken. Take notice of the brand names she loves…is it Chanel? Micheal Kors? Coach? Valentino? Chanel lipstick with Chanel perfume is a start. A MK handbag and watch is another. A wallet and handbag from Coach is yet another.
Maybe surprise her and take her to her favorite designer store (or Barney’s/Saks/etc) and have her pick out what she wants. It’s not as romantic, but hey, if she loves labels let her pick it. If you pick it yourself, think about her style and figure out what will work with what she already owns: i.e. don’t buy her a gold watch if she only wears silver. Don’t buy her a Louis Vuitton bag if she can’t stand the idea of LV all over an item. Also shoes are another way to win her V Day affection: does she love new heels? How about some sparkly Jimmy Choos to wear to the restaurant you’ll be taking her.
Also, if you decide to go designer, don’t buy your gift from ebay or second hand. It’s just not the same, especially for Valentine’s Day.
For the Earthy Lady:
A hemp/eco friendly rucksack. A natural leather bag that will last a lifetime. A simple jewelry piece with silver and stone. An engraved keepsake, like jewelry box or monogrammed bag. Think of her interests…does she like to be cozy and comfortable? Get her plush winter boots from LL Bean. Does she like Mountain climbing? An insulated good quality jacket. Love tea? How about a clay tea pot with engraved cups?
A day trip or overnight stay in a log cabin overlooking a lake. A camping trip. A bed and breakfast in the mountains. Your lady will surely love it if you take her away for the weekend somewhere outdoors and romantic, get her a nice climbing/hiking bag made from Bison leather, and a classic tea pot to brew some love by the fire.
For the Romantic Lady:
Write her a song. Make her a jewelry box out of pine wood, engraved with your favorite quote. Flowers, but not just traditional roses, give her something different that will become her new “favorite flower.” Simple jewelry. Dinner over candlelight. Soft music playing. Chocolates. Framed picture of the two of you on a special trip or day. A photo book with pictures recounting your memories together. Take her to a lake side resort, catch your own fish, and cook it for dinner together. Buy her her favorite romantic movie and watch it together. A basket of dainty things: perfume, garter stockings, monogrammed handkerchiefs, silver earrings, a love note, massage oil, and candies.
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