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A go-getter, sociable, light hearted, prefers the beach rather than the mountains, meticulous about looks, prefers technology jobs
Tough, man of the earth, doesn’t trust others easily, tends to be a family man, outdoorsy, likes Pine scents, rustic, hands-on
Parties, friendly to others, prefers a job working with his mind rather than his hands, likes an eclectic circle of friends
Cosmopolitan, sophisticated, nostalgic, appreciates well tailored clothes, quiet or tends to be reserved,
Experimental, outgoing, temperamental, good lovers, impatient, argumentative, not a very good listener
Mixed Drink Man:
Conservative, diplomatic, can either be intense or really laid back, good listener,
Sports man (limited to football, rugby, and basketball), down to earth, casual dater, no frills kinda guy, suburban, loves having young ones around, prefers the outdoors than an office space
Craft Beer Man:
Sports man (limited to rugby, tennis, some football, etc), knows what he wants out of life (and love), refined palate, loves the outdoors.
Why were the 60s so grand? Surely it wasn’t the psychedelics, but rather the music that was produced during this imitable era. We have the Beatles, The Temptations, Johnny Cash, Bob Dylan, Elvis Presley, Marvin Gaye, The Rolling Stones…and the list just keeps going on.
Here at Cufflinksman, we’d like to give you OUR top 5 songs of the decade for this upcoming Winter Season. How do they measure up to your standards?
1. Beach Boys “God Only Knows”
“This song fires twin darts at your heart from the beginning. A maudlin French horn heralds the start before those timeless words “I may not always love you” pin you to the wall. You’re at Brian Wilson’s mercy from then on as he tips out tumbling drums and sweet harmonies relentlessly for the next three minutes. Simon from Biffy Clyro has the lyrics tattooed across his chest and it’s Paul…” -from NME.com
2. Bob Dylan “Girl From the North Country”
“The song was written following his first trip to England in December, 1962, upon what he thought to be the completion of his second album. It is debated as to whom this song is a tribute to, some claim former girlfriend, Echo Helstrom, and some Bonnie Beecher, both of whom Dylan knew before leaving for New York.”–from Wiki
3. California Dreamin’ By The Mamas and the Papas
4. Velvet Underground “Chelsea Girls”
“The Velvet Underground was an American rock band, active between 1964 and 1973, formed in New York City by Lou Reed and John Cale, who both went on to find success as solo artists.
Although experiencing little commercial success while together, the band is often cited by many critics as one of the most important and influential groups of the 1960s. In a 1982 interview Brian Eno made the often repeated statement that while the first Velvet Underground album may have sold only 30,000 copies in its early years, “everyone who bought one of those 30,000 copies started a band.”
Andy Warhol managed the Velvet Underground and it was the house band at his studio, the Factory, and his Exploding Plastic Inevitable events. The provocative lyrics of some of the band’s songs gave a nihilistic outlook to some of their music”
5. The Beatles “A Day in the Life”
-Go back to Kindergarten. What exactly does that mean? Think short notes, small flowers, a speck of candy, and maybe a mini monkey bear thing. It just shows “you’re a sweetheart in my book” and “I’ll save extra carrots for you during snack time.”
-First, please refer to “Friends with Extra Benefits” section. Next mix options “Just friends, kind of” and “Dating for 3+ months.” There you have a perfect match, vis a vie gift anyway…
-This is the most complicated category of this entire blog. What to do, what to do…I would normally say, refer to number ____, but that doesn’t mean much. So, it’s time to get real. What does your lady love? Is it the ocean? Is it silence? Is it Wordsworth’s poetry? Is it the 1860s? Perhaps she loves Taye Diggs? Pick at least three of “These are a few of my favorite things…” and come up with something creative. Then slowly incorporate the following examples/scenerios from Dating 3 + Months and more into the mix to make it extra special.
-Something kinky. If you like her, maybe love her, and maybe/maybe not want to blow her brains out, get her something sexy. That doesn’t always constitute lingerie persay, but…it could. Think about your favorite sexcapades: what is normally involved? Hot oil massages? Sex toys? Certain genre of music? Sexual play things? Nothing says, “I love what you do to me,” better than a great sex kit. Try filling a basket with some lub, condoms, sex toys, and something really sexually exotic that neither of you have ever tried. (Stumped for ideas? We can’t write them all here, but we can direct you to your local sex shop/Ricky’s, assuming of course you’re in NYC). Then see where the night takes you. But get really wild/adventurous.
-Think back over the past three months. What have the two of you done together? Think of the most special, cool, romantic, quirky moments and pick an object that stands out from one of those moments. Did you share laughs about some guy’s mustache while ice skating? (Get her a mustache mug, with matching “Ron Swanson” mustaches for the two of you to wear over dinner). Did you tease her while she cried during an episode of Game of Thrones? (Get her the DVD set and a figurine of Jamie Lanister, or whatever his name is). Did you guys experience a ‘moment’ whilst driving and a particular song came on? (Make her a mix tape with tat song and others like it…)
-Please refer to “Dating for 3+ Months.” In addition to these ideas, something more substantially materialistic is appropriate too. What is her weakness/superficial loves: bags, shoes, makeup, body care, clothes, scents, accessories, or jewelry? Pick one of these and find her favorites. If she loves bags, find that perfect knapsack you know she’s been eyeing. If she’s a beauty regime type, take a trip to Sephora and pick out a skin care/makeup gift set. If she’s a necklace lover, find a local artisan and have something simple made for her. If she’s a shoe person, go to Bloomingdales and ask a sales rep for help. But if you follow any of these things, also, again, refer to “Dating for 3+ months” for those sentimental kicks too.
-Synthesize advice from “Dating for 3+ Months” and “Dating for 1 year.” Couple that with a momento of your relationsip: a photo gift book (collages of your history together), mix tape of your favorite songs, poetry (what, what?), and/or some other romantic set-up that showcases your time together.
-Again, going along with the previous three models, pick something from there, and then get a memento of your courtship. A series of professional pictures, a beauty session together, a travel package (even to your local hotel/bed and breakfast), and set it up with small mementos of your inner personal relationship.
Get her something that you know she’s been wanting, and no, that doesn’t include a new toaster. If you know she loves a particular scent, get her a nice perfume that exemplifies that. If you know she loves turquoise, get her a brooch or local-artisan ring featuring a turquoise stone. If she’s religious, buy her a nice rosary made from blessed stones, a Quran from a local bookshop, homemade oils from the local Pagan lady, etc. Or let’s say she has some wacky love/fetish/taste in something that no one else does: get her that. Find it! Get her an array of things that she wouldn’t normally buy for herself, just to show how well you really know her.
Certain Things Women Can’t Resist
We’ve all heard the saying “nice guys finish last” and that can be true…if you’re a push-over. Women don’t want men who are passively sweet and timid about their affections. So what do women really want? They want a bold “nice guy” who isn’t afraid of rejection, who will go to “bad boy” lengths to get the girl.
What does that even mean? Check it:
Go to Great Lengths to get her. And we don’t mean inches.
So she lives in another state? Go find her. There’s something ultra-romantic and straight forward about going out to seek the one you love, traveling miles, and confessing your adoration. Any man that travels far with the sole purpose of “loving” her and only her, has about a 98% chance of having the feeling reciprocated. We fall for that kind of stuff. Just make sure when you get there, you have that rushed sense of “I’ve missed you so much that I just couldn’t…” blah blah you get the picture. But don’t abuse this romantic charm, make sure you know the lady and have a chance with her.
Send her gifts. Seriously.
It’s not that she’s a gold digger, but women want to be thought of and sometimes in tangible ways —and they want to be able to think of you in tangible ways too. By sending her little gifts, you’re not only showing her you love her, but it also ensures she will be remembering YOU every time she looks at it. hehe…slick one. This is why “gift giving” during courtship (and hopefully thereafter) is one of the most romantic, charming tricks in the book. You get extra extra bonus points if these gifts aren’t generic and have something to do with her inner, personal life (……) LIKE something she’s casually brought up in conversation, something that complements her life and aesthetics.
TELL her you’re taking her out to lunch.
Remember, passivity is the devil. Be bold about it and respectful. Treat her like a lady from the Victorian era and then watch as she unfolds into a minx later on. But before all that, don’t casually ask a woman your pinning for out to lunch….TELL her you’re taking her: “I’m taking you to lunch today. I was thinking that Greek restaurant. How’s 1:30 later on today? I’ll pick you up outside your office.” BOOM. Brilliance. And if you’re rejected, well it depends on HOW you’re rejected, be persistent until you know it’s a no-go.
Some men think that they will boost a woman’s head up if they compliment her. Not the case: a happy, confident woman is a happy, confident man. As long as the compliments aren’t excessive, they are necessary. Notice the little things. She’ll reward you later.
Conduct a scavenger hunt.
Start with an anonymous note. Maybe a series of poems or riddles. Nothing to sappy or romantic, just enough to get her looking at places. Think of the movie “Amelie.” Remember what SHE put that man through? Of course they end up together in the end! Leave little clues around your city/town that lead to more clues. The end result doesn’t matter, it’s the anticipation that counts. Leave her a note at the gas station/deli, which leads to an old movie theater, have a ticket waiting for her, etc etc. Get creative. The more work you put in, the more impressed she’ll be.
Guide to Gift Giving
According to Hallmark (and your wife), it’s never too early to start looking for Valentine’s Day presents. And we all know men aren’t the greatest shoppers anyways–it’s against the evolutionary biological standard for men. But CLM is here, once again, to help you pry through the masses of gifts and pick the right one for your lady friend.
First, pick which “type” your lady embodies. No, we don’t like putting anyone in categories, but for this shopping effort on Valentine’s we will make an exception.
Is she Glitzy? Designer? Earthy? or Romantic?
Pick ONE or TWO:
For the Glitzy Lady:
Get her something that sparkles, it’s a no brainer. Every woman has her favorite jewelry staple, be it necklaces, rings,bracelets, earrings, or a mix of everything. Have a custom ring or necklace made for her, it doesn’t have to be an engagement ring, but if your serious, then maybe some kind of “promise” ring. Yes we’re taking it back old school. Good Old Mr. Hallmark forces us to! Forgive us please!
But really, don’t just go to the local department store and grab anything that sparkles. Put some kind of thought into it…meaning go to a local jeweler and actually design something. It could be in Sterling Silver or Platinum, add a few semi-precious stones and you have a one of a kind ring, necklace, or bracelet to give her. The trick is, you don’t want to fall into that “Kay Jewelers or Jared’s” trap that says she should have the same necklace and ring as every other woman in America. Put your mind and money together to create something beautiful.
Is she a Stunning Love Knot kind of gal?
For the Designer Lady:
A handbag. A watch. Anything by her favorite designer that she can use on the regular and be reminded of your love (and money). They go hand in hand, do they not? Hey V-Day can be kind of cut throat for the unemployed and taken. Take notice of the brand names she loves…is it Chanel? Micheal Kors? Coach? Valentino? Chanel lipstick with Chanel perfume is a start. A MK handbag and watch is another. A wallet and handbag from Coach is yet another.
Maybe surprise her and take her to her favorite designer store (or Barney’s/Saks/etc) and have her pick out what she wants. It’s not as romantic, but hey, if she loves labels let her pick it. If you pick it yourself, think about her style and figure out what will work with what she already owns: i.e. don’t buy her a gold watch if she only wears silver. Don’t buy her a Louis Vuitton bag if she can’t stand the idea of LV all over an item. Also shoes are another way to win her V Day affection: does she love new heels? How about some sparkly Jimmy Choos to wear to the restaurant you’ll be taking her.
Also, if you decide to go designer, don’t buy your gift from ebay or second hand. It’s just not the same, especially for Valentine’s Day.
For the Earthy Lady:
A hemp/eco friendly rucksack. A natural leather bag that will last a lifetime. A simple jewelry piece with silver and stone. An engraved keepsake, like jewelry box or monogrammed bag. Think of her interests…does she like to be cozy and comfortable? Get her plush winter boots from LL Bean. Does she like Mountain climbing? An insulated good quality jacket. Love tea? How about a clay tea pot with engraved cups?
A day trip or overnight stay in a log cabin overlooking a lake. A camping trip. A bed and breakfast in the mountains. Your lady will surely love it if you take her away for the weekend somewhere outdoors and romantic, get her a nice climbing/hiking bag made from Bison leather, and a classic tea pot to brew some love by the fire.
For the Romantic Lady:
Write her a song. Make her a jewelry box out of pine wood, engraved with your favorite quote. Flowers, but not just traditional roses, give her something different that will become her new “favorite flower.” Simple jewelry. Dinner over candlelight. Soft music playing. Chocolates. Framed picture of the two of you on a special trip or day. A photo book with pictures recounting your memories together. Take her to a lake side resort, catch your own fish, and cook it for dinner together. Buy her her favorite romantic movie and watch it together. A basket of dainty things: perfume, garter stockings, monogrammed handkerchiefs, silver earrings, a love note, massage oil, and candies.
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