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Let’s face it–living in New York City is just somehow better than other places. Now we’re not New York snobs over here, but the best season to possibly live in NYC would hands down be fall.
Something about the bitter chill, the warm subway nooks, the street lights coming on at 5pm, and the colorful leaves in Central Park that make the hustle and bustle all worth while.
1. The landscape views (from your fire escape, friend’s balcony, rooftop).
2- Trees in Central Park.
3- The opening(s) of ice skating rinks.
4- The “new” lights–or shall we say, newly added?
5. You actually feel somewhat cozy on a crowded train
6- Happy hour seems to start earlier, but only because it gets darker earlier.
7- Fall colors go best up against a concrete jungle. Ever notice that your muted clothes look so good up against a background of brick? What’s up with that? FALL is what’s up with that…
8-New Yorkers seem to look better in boots and scarves. We’re not the most attractive bunch without them. Think: if we were in Miami how out of place we’d all look? New Yorkers are not made for bikinis and speedos, so it seems.
9- Football season in HD at every bar/ friend’s apartment. It’s always on the screen, reminding you of comfort, ale, and evening banter–even if you’re not that into football.
10- Even if there’s a blizzard, you can still get delivery–at any time of the day or night. Take that suburbs.
We’ve all been there. Well, most of us have anyways–circling the question of whether or not that “someone” is really into you or just playing you for a fool. For the various reasons she keeps you around, here are the sure, tall tell signs that she’s really, just not that into you.
1- Doesn’t hold your gaze or look into your eyes. If a woman is really into you, she’s definitely going to want to stare in those baby blue/brown/greens for longer than a few seconds at a time.
2- “Hey I have to call you back”–and then doesn’t. This one is kind of obvious, yet most humans want the best from people and expect the best. “There’s no way that he/she can’t be into ME?” Sorry to break it to you, we’re no psychologists over here, but–she’s not that into you.
3- Talks about other men when she’s with you. If she’s yapping about Gary and Tom, her straight guy friends, or references that she still may or may not be in love with her ex boyfriend–she’s not that into you.
4- Not into make-out sessions…with you. Kissing= magic. Without it, you just don’t have the spark.
5- You see new photos of her with other guys on Facebook. Should I say more?
6- She asks for grooming/ fashion advice more than she should. If she does, she sees you more like a guy friend and definitely not a lover. With lovers, mystery is always better, at least in the beginning.
7- She openly flirts with the waiter or bartender. Either she’s not that into you, or she wants to make you jealous. Either way, you don’t need a lady like that.
8- Never brings up her parents, let alone bring you up to them. If she’s never mentioned you EVER to her parents, chances are, you don’t stand a chance.
9- If she seems constantly distracted when you’re telling her a story. (She’s checking her phone, the door, her plate, her fingernails…way more than she’s checking you out.
10- She says “I like you, really. Just, as a friend…”.
A friend is a friend is a friend. And that is all it will ever be, so move on. If she actually has to say it, then there’s really no chance of you getting the girl. It’s one thing for friendship to turn into romance, but when it’s openly verbalized…well, there you go.
If you’re lucky enough to live in New York City, you have a wide range of activities to do at literally any time of the day and night. During the holiday season, there’s an influx seasonal charm and events that bring in tourists from all over the world. One of our favorite things to do here at Cufflinksman is to enjoy an evening of burlesque.
Now if you’ve never been to a real Burlesque show, you may have the wrong idea. Burlesque is one of the most beautiful forms of dancing and late night entertainment for adults. While we wouldn’t recommend you take the kiddies to an after hours show, or any such show before the age of 16, for those cosmopolitan 20-80 something’s, it can be the perfect night out.
-Go back to Kindergarten. What exactly does that mean? Think short notes, small flowers, a speck of candy, and maybe a mini monkey bear thing. It just shows “you’re a sweetheart in my book” and “I’ll save extra carrots for you during snack time.”
-First, please refer to “Friends with Extra Benefits” section. Next mix options “Just friends, kind of” and “Dating for 3+ months.” There you have a perfect match, vis a vie gift anyway…
-This is the most complicated category of this entire blog. What to do, what to do…I would normally say, refer to number ____, but that doesn’t mean much. So, it’s time to get real. What does your lady love? Is it the ocean? Is it silence? Is it Wordsworth’s poetry? Is it the 1860s? Perhaps she loves Taye Diggs? Pick at least three of “These are a few of my favorite things…” and come up with something creative. Then slowly incorporate the following examples/scenerios from Dating 3 + Months and more into the mix to make it extra special.
-Something kinky. If you like her, maybe love her, and maybe/maybe not want to blow her brains out, get her something sexy. That doesn’t always constitute lingerie persay, but…it could. Think about your favorite sexcapades: what is normally involved? Hot oil massages? Sex toys? Certain genre of music? Sexual play things? Nothing says, “I love what you do to me,” better than a great sex kit. Try filling a basket with some lub, condoms, sex toys, and something really sexually exotic that neither of you have ever tried. (Stumped for ideas? We can’t write them all here, but we can direct you to your local sex shop/Ricky’s, assuming of course you’re in NYC). Then see where the night takes you. But get really wild/adventurous.
-Think back over the past three months. What have the two of you done together? Think of the most special, cool, romantic, quirky moments and pick an object that stands out from one of those moments. Did you share laughs about some guy’s mustache while ice skating? (Get her a mustache mug, with matching “Ron Swanson” mustaches for the two of you to wear over dinner). Did you tease her while she cried during an episode of Game of Thrones? (Get her the DVD set and a figurine of Jamie Lanister, or whatever his name is). Did you guys experience a ‘moment’ whilst driving and a particular song came on? (Make her a mix tape with tat song and others like it…)
-Please refer to “Dating for 3+ Months.” In addition to these ideas, something more substantially materialistic is appropriate too. What is her weakness/superficial loves: bags, shoes, makeup, body care, clothes, scents, accessories, or jewelry? Pick one of these and find her favorites. If she loves bags, find that perfect knapsack you know she’s been eyeing. If she’s a beauty regime type, take a trip to Sephora and pick out a skin care/makeup gift set. If she’s a necklace lover, find a local artisan and have something simple made for her. If she’s a shoe person, go to Bloomingdales and ask a sales rep for help. But if you follow any of these things, also, again, refer to “Dating for 3+ months” for those sentimental kicks too.
-Synthesize advice from “Dating for 3+ Months” and “Dating for 1 year.” Couple that with a momento of your relationsip: a photo gift book (collages of your history together), mix tape of your favorite songs, poetry (what, what?), and/or some other romantic set-up that showcases your time together.
-Again, going along with the previous three models, pick something from there, and then get a memento of your courtship. A series of professional pictures, a beauty session together, a travel package (even to your local hotel/bed and breakfast), and set it up with small mementos of your inner personal relationship.
Get her something that you know she’s been wanting, and no, that doesn’t include a new toaster. If you know she loves a particular scent, get her a nice perfume that exemplifies that. If you know she loves turquoise, get her a brooch or local-artisan ring featuring a turquoise stone. If she’s religious, buy her a nice rosary made from blessed stones, a Quran from a local bookshop, homemade oils from the local Pagan lady, etc. Or let’s say she has some wacky love/fetish/taste in something that no one else does: get her that. Find it! Get her an array of things that she wouldn’t normally buy for herself, just to show how well you really know her.
The best ways to keep your skin feeling fresh during this brittle winter season
By Amber Snider
What’s the first thing that happens to your body when the temperature drops? Get your mind out of the gutter, really, we’re just talking about your skin. You feel the cold, and your skin takes a beating because of it. Moisturize your body’s largest organ properly throughout the winter via the following: serious water intake, good daily moisturizer, and yes, a nightly cream. (yes, it’s time to take care of your skin via that nightly cream, especially if you’re over 35. You’ll thank us come…Friday?)
So now that you’re “with” us on this, I’m sure you’re wondering: But how do I do that exactly? What’s your best, professional advice to keeping my skin aglow, happy, and ultra-fashionable. Any tips for brands and remedies?
Well now that you asked, sure. That’s what we’re here for! 🙂 That way you don’t have to go asking your girlfriend which is the proper gentle day cream with SPF for under $20 bucks? Or the best winter (or all-season) cleanser? Look no further, Cufflinksman is back and we don’t legally endorse any of the products except our own, so you know it’s from the heart.
1. Daily Moisturizer
Wake up, brush the dentes, and then what? Moisturize. It’s important this dry season, with the bitter cold hitting our precious skin each time we open a shop door or go out for coffee, to put on a daily “something” lotion on your face. Try something simple at your local Rite Aid, Duane Reade, etc, like this Cerave Moisturizer for under $15.
2. Some Other Stuff like that, but even old-schooler:
Old-school celebrities and movie stars swear by this stuff. It’s been around since your grandmother (we almost guarantee that). It’s under $5 and worth every penny. Plus how is it always “cold” and thereby refreshing? Humans..
Ponds Cold Cream
3. Body Wash with Moisturizer
Yes, body wash with moisturizer. Look for it by name on any bottle, preferably with Shea Butter, Vitamin E, Aloe, and Green Tea Essentials. And go by MY rule: Scrub in the tub what you would eat for grub. Meaning, if it’s not edible, don’t go putting it all over your skin either. Your grandmother will thank us later for that too.
4. Weekly Scrub
If the apricot scrub at the local drug store isn’t your thing, try making your own:
Cup of coarse salt/sugar, vitamin E drops, olive oil, liquid soap, vanilla extract, water, and any other essential oil you like. Add a bow around a mason jar and pour, there you have it!
5. Nails: Hand Cream
Hands, next to the eyes/ face/ teeth, your hands are the other next things people notice immediately. Make sure your nails are well-groomed this winter with a few cuticle treatments a month. No, you don’t have to go get pampered at your local Nail Salon, but can use an array of regular items around your house. If you don’t have a lady friend in your close vicinity to ask for hers, go for the olive oil in your kitchen. Smooth on just a little on each fingertip and push the cuticle down with your other nail/finger. It will work just the same–it’s the “bro way.” But if you’re out of olive oil too, plus a girlfriend, then go for Burt’s Bee stuff:
Burt’s Bees little greasy and it doesn’t have multiple functions, but still good and inexpensive.
6. Foot Cream (yes! We’ll tell you why…)
Your feet harbor so much moisture while tucked inside your boots all day, which causes bacteria to form. Especially with those (possibly multiple) layers of socks, your feet suffer severe an overload of moisture followed by extreme cold. After washing with body scrub, rub thick hand/foot cream onto your feet, followed by a dose of the talic powder. These helps your “refresh” at the end of the day and retain the “healthy” moisture they need.